The holiday season is upon us. Not only are we busy buying gifts, but also preparing to welcome our guests. Soon we will also become the guests of others. But this is not a casual meeting.

A beautiful Zen teaching asks us, Who is the Guest, Who is the Host? Who is truly arriving, and how do we prepare for and welcome them? How can we become aware of the depth of this encounter, its enormous possibilities?

Normally, friends and family stroll into our homes and are greeted either warmly, politely or casually. We hope to make a good impression, want them to enjoy themselves. Other times we wonder how long they'll stay. The entire visit can be filled with obligation and pressure. Sometimes we prepare food, drink and other gifts for our guests. Other times less.

Sometimes the guest brings gifts, other times it is the host who is giving. In this magical encounter it is crucial that we are able to fully receive whatever is given. To be a true guest, we must be able to be present and appreciate all the offerings we are presented with. And also appreciate and give thanks for the One who is offering them. True receiving and recognition is itself a gift we are giving.
In scripture we hear of Abraham, who while in great pain, went running to welcome guests, travelers who were coming his way. Although they just seemed like wanderers, they were angels being sent with blessings.

Zen practice, too, tells us that our guest is a gift from the Universe, a precious live gift being sent our way. It is our deepest responsibility and ultimate joy to care for them fully. (This guest also includes members of our family, friends, acquaintances, all those we meet day by day). Every day, everywhere, we encounter the guest. Are we a true host? Do we see who is before us?

And it is also the responsibility of the guest, to recognize and thank the Host. Naturally, we are hosted everyday of our lives. The universe gives to us continually, provides warmth and shelter, love and companionship in all of its myriad forms. It also provides difficulties and obstacles, another necessary gift we must receive graciously.

As life revolves in all its phases, naturally, from moment to moment we become both the guest and host. And when we look through clear eyes, we see the power and beauty of each position. We also ultimately see who the true Host is as well as the true Guest. In truth, is there any separation between them?

Brenda Shoshanna, Ph.D.is a psychologist, author, long-term Zen practitioner, speaker and workshop leader. She has offered over 500 talks and workshops on all aspects of personal and spiritual development and creating authentic peace of mind. Her recent workshop, Steppingstones to Happiness, combines the Sedona Releasing Method, and the practice and principles of Zen. (Brenda is an original student of Lester Levenson, founder of the Method). www.brendashoshanna.com