The saying goes, “Be careful what you ask for, you just might get it!” I say, “Be ready for what you wish for, in case you get it!”. 

The human myth is that once we have obtained what we so deeply desire, The God of our understanding, Angels, and the Universe have answered our prayers and it’s clear sailing. 

However, a deeper understanding warrants that with every desire and dream fulfilled comes a cartload of new challenges to address. I have a very successful client who believed her dream was to become a top fashion designer. After working with her to achieve that great accomplishment, she realized she had an even deeper desire to get married and have a family. We immediately began working to magnetically attract the right man into her life. A year and a half later, I had the great joy of watching her walk down the aisle at a secret destination wedding.

One might believe that at this point in life she “had it all”. However, one year later she was faced with a new set of challenges - balancing a demanding successful professional life, a fabulous husband and a welcomed new baby. 

The truth is our challenges become greater as we cast a bigger net. Life is a continuum that offers us the chance to evolve and grow through the circumstances and situations that come into our lives. Achieving a dream is not the ultimate goal or endpoint of happiness. The ultimate goal is to have the ability to keep your mind, body and spirit in a flow of creative possibility and intention.

A great example of that is in the film, What’s Love Got to Do With It, the story of Tina Turner’s life. For me, the most memorable part of the movie was the courtroom scene during Tina’s divorce from her abusive husband, Ike. Before the judge closes the case, he says to Tina, “I want you to be sure about this. This means you’re gonna walk out of here with absolutely nothing,” in which Tina replies, “except my name.”

The scene ends with her leaving everything behind. Tina experienced her dream of being a great performer, but it came at a tremendous personal expense. She realized she had a deeper dream to love herself and be happy. This set off a chain of events that challenged her to create something even greater than what she had before … and she did.

It’s imperative to access the mental, emotional, and spiritual resources needed in order for our dreams and desires to become a “way of life.” It must become an embedded philosophy that helps us overcome the uncertainties and insecurities that change and transition bring. 

Fearlessly hold the vision of what you want. Keep working on releasing the emotional, mental and spiritual blocks that tell you, you can’t. Our power is in the strength of our faith, trust and belief that we can be victorious over the inevitable challenges that life presents.

In 2004, I was one of the first women in America to give birth to twins at the age of 57. My deepest dream and desire had come true. As I held my beautiful babies, Gian and Francesca, I was so happy. Going forward, I felt that nothing would be as challenging as what I had gone through to get there; meditating in fertility temples in Southern India, working with Shamans in the Amazon, and going to great lengths to combine the best of Western and Eastern medicine. Little did I know the daunting road I travelled bringing them into this world would also serve to prepare me for the challenges to come.

In 2008, my son Gian was diagnosed as high functioning Asperger’s. With this diagnoses, it opened me up to how the world is learning about Asperger’s and children on the Asperger’s spectrum. People with Asperger’s brains are wired to function differently than the typically developed brain.

Like any parent, I want both of my children to reach their unique highest potentials and be able to make their own decisions and have many options when the time comes. To accomplish this, I can tell you it is a daily journey of drawing from all the Life Shifting psycho-spiritual resources and techniques that I have worked with over the years.

Today, I need to hold the dream of what I want to accomplish, as Gian and Francesca’s mother, even stronger in my heart than ever before. I know deep in my heart that Gian and Francesca were meant to be here with me. I also know that facing these new challenges enables me to bring more insight and healing to other families and loved ones about how to empower children on the spectrum and with Asperger’s.

Who knew this was part of the course my life would take? Thankfully, I was ready for what I wished for, because I got it.

Aleta St. James is an international leader in agelessness, defying limitations and fulfilling dreams. She’s the successful author of Life Shift: Let Go and Live Your Dream. Brilliantly, she’s combined her mastery of Eastern and Western practices to create powerful Life Shift techniques. Aleta has not only graced the cover of New York Magazine for best alternative medicine practitioners, but was named 2013’s Top Energy Healer, as well as AARP Magazine’s “People Who Inspire”.