Manifest Your Mate!
by Jill Crosby • Portland, OR

For singles, Valentine’s Day can bring up strong feelings of desire to be in a healthy, loving relationship. By incorporating the following tips and techniques you can manifest the love of your life in no time!

Get Love: When you love yourself unconditionally, you create loving energy towards yourself, which draws loving energy in your direction. Remembering that you are Divine Energy, makes loving yourself unconditionally come naturally. We all came from the same Divine Energy and everything is made of this energy, including you! You are “God” having a human experience, so forgive yourself for making mistakes, learn the lessons from “being human” and move on! When you fully immerse yourself in Divine, unconditional love of self you will feel exuberant, joyful and deeply peaceful.

To help you get to an unconditionally loving place, treat yourself to a brief meditation of self love every morning and every night. Close your eyes, take some deep breaths, get centered and relaxed. Once you are in a meditative state, feel your connection with Divine Energy and know that you are Divine. Feel your strong love for Divine (God) deep in your soul. Feel and KNOW that you are this Divine Energy. Feel grateful, happy and in love with yourself. Do this everyday for at least 5 minutes when you first wake in the morning and every night before bed. Appreciate and love yourself throughout the day. Take a few breaths and think “I love me! I AM DIVINE ENERGY AND LOVE!” and feel the total acceptance and love for yourself.

When you remember and embrace your Divinity, you will be grounded in self love and wholeness, not looking to others to “complete” or validate you. You are whole, complete and in love with yourself, therefore, fully present when interacting with others.

Get Clear: Once you have developed a healthy, loving relationship with yourself, the next step is to get clear about the type of person you would like to draw into your life. Start with a brainstorming exercise by listing all of the qualities you would like to experience in your ideal partner. Write everything that comes to mind, such as integrity, honesty, good sense of humor, active, healthy, intelligent, great chemistry, wants kids, financially stable, loves to travel… Once you have your list, circle the items that are “must haves.” In other words, if your ideal partner does not have these qualities, it would be a deal breaker. Consider everything you have not circled a “preference.” For example, a “must have” might be “he must be a non-smoker” and a preference might be, “I prefer her to be attractive.” Remember, you are meeting a “soul” in a human body. The body is temporary and the real connection is with the soul, so let things like body type, height, weight and race be preferences (if at all); they are really not that important. Chemistry is a funny thing and comes in all shapes and sizes. Lifestyle, activity level, spirituality and a decent base of common interests are more important.

Once you have your must haves and preferences, get your creative juices flowing and write a story describing your ideal day with your ideal mate. Make it multi-sensory and live it up! Use present tense, as if he/she is already in your life. Make sure to include how your partner will make you feel and what kind of interactions and energy you will experience together. Go through your whole ideal day like this and you will not only be manifesting your ideal mate, you will be creating your ideal life!

Get Grateful: Now let’s energize your story with emotions. Read your story out loud and imagine he/she is ALREADY in your life and FEEL joy and gratitude for the beautiful life you have created together! Really turn up those feelings and let your heart fill with love. After doing this, let it go and whenever you think about it, imagine the wonderful life you have together and know that it’s done. Feel grateful every time you think about it. Any feelings of doubt or skepticism will slow down the process or even prevent it, so be confident and know it’s done.

Get Busy: Lastly, you need to TAKE ACTION! Put yourself in situations where you can meet other eligible singles. Join activity groups, take classes and do the things you enjoy. Be open to meeting/dating a variety of people “looks-wise;” remember, chemistry is a funny thing! Joining an online spiritual dating site will provide you with a targeted “pool” of conscious singles. Use your intuition to let Divine Energy guide you towards whom you should contact, be pro-active and initiate contact! Trust that the Divine love you feel for yourself will be reciprocated by the right person. Just relax, be yourself, have fun and enjoy the process. Continue to feel grateful in advance and watch the sparks fly! Here’s to you and may you manifest your mate easily and joyfully!

Jill Crosby is the owner/founder of SpirtualSingles.com, the largest, exclusively spiritual dating site on the Internet and she has been a consultant for the dating industry for the last 10 years. She is also a dynamic public speaker, workshop/retreat leader and hypnotherapist. Contact info: marketing@spiritualsingles.com.